Although my daughter is only 17 months, I recently attended a seminar called STEP: The Systematic Training for Effective Parenting. I believe that it's never too early to start consciously using a language that promotes mutual respect and positive relationships. My wish for my daughter is that she will one day look in the mirror and see a competent, compassionate, confident woman. I want so much for her, but above all, I want her to know that who she is will always be enough. Below are some phrases I've used (adapted from STEP: Parenting Young Children), guaranteed to encourage your child, so that she can feel good about herself.
- "I can see you're working hard on that puzzle!"
- "You look like you're having lots of fun!"
- "Thank you for your help turning on the light."
- "You're getting better at eating with spoon."
- "I need your help putting the toys away."
- "You seem to like taking a bath."
- "Wow! You can climb up the stairs all by yourself."
- "You remembered to keep your bib on."
- "Thank you for bringing me the toilet paper. That helped me a lot." (No joke!)